I'm not sure when this happened but it seems that the turn-signal has become optional. Aside form the fact that this is a actually illegal it appears to me that this is indicative of a much bigger problem. It is the same issue that causes people to actually speed up if someone signals that they need to enter the lane. It is what allows someone to usurp a parking space regardless that another driver was waiting patiently for a spot, to sit idly at an intersection checking on one's phone or blocking an entrance by leaving one's car unattended justifiying this by turning on the hazards. People have become so concerned with their own needs that anyone that even appears to encroach on them is viewed as an offense; the road is mine and all that it entails. The selfishness that is so prevalent on the road has become somewhat the mark of the generation. This is the age of entitlement. The irony is that the very first thing we are taught is to be selfish. From the moment we are born the concern of our own needs is cultivated and nurtured within us. When we are infants as soon as we cry individuals rush to our call. As a matter of fact the first time we are aware that we aren't going to get what we want and that no might be a possible answer to our call we can't handle that reality bringing forth the inevitable, the tantrum. After teaching us to be concerned with ourselves for the most formidable years of our lives we are then expected to realize that being selfish is not good and we must share and sometimes must even learn to do without for the benefit of others.
The irony here is that being selfish is actually what we all still are. Every decision we ever make is a selfish one. Every choice we make is because we think that is what will ultimately give us the most pleasure. Who we marry is the person we think is the best for me. What job we take is because that will be best for us in the long run. Every choice is a selfish choice. What we must learn is that greatest act of selfishness we can have is to be unselfish. To learn to give and be concerned with other people's pleasure is what ultimitely will give us the most pleasure. We see this so clearly in relationships; when we give we receive so much more. The challenge is learning to have a healthy balance between the realization that we are always concerned with what is best for us and the awareness that negating others is not to our benefit. When we focus on ourselves in a way that negates others that is what leads to the attitude of entitlement and narcisim. You are an intruder in my world. However when we realize that being concerned with others needs and pleasures is what gives me the most pleasure then we can learn to give in a healthy balanced way. Just like one should not take care of them self to the exclusion of others it is just as bad to give to others at the cost of our own self needs. We should look at the world as if it is our own. It is our own to get the most pleasure from. And the greatest pleasure we can get is by being selfish in the right way.
The irony here is that being selfish is actually what we all still are. Every decision we ever make is a selfish one. Every choice we make is because we think that is what will ultimately give us the most pleasure. Who we marry is the person we think is the best for me. What job we take is because that will be best for us in the long run. Every choice is a selfish choice. What we must learn is that greatest act of selfishness we can have is to be unselfish. To learn to give and be concerned with other people's pleasure is what ultimitely will give us the most pleasure. We see this so clearly in relationships; when we give we receive so much more. The challenge is learning to have a healthy balance between the realization that we are always concerned with what is best for us and the awareness that negating others is not to our benefit. When we focus on ourselves in a way that negates others that is what leads to the attitude of entitlement and narcisim. You are an intruder in my world. However when we realize that being concerned with others needs and pleasures is what gives me the most pleasure then we can learn to give in a healthy balanced way. Just like one should not take care of them self to the exclusion of others it is just as bad to give to others at the cost of our own self needs. We should look at the world as if it is our own. It is our own to get the most pleasure from. And the greatest pleasure we can get is by being selfish in the right way.
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